I recently read through 1 Corinthians, and a passage stood out to me in a way that it never would have prior to Christian's death.
"Now if Christ is preached that He has been raised from the dead, how do some among you say that there is no resurrection of the dead? But if there is no resurrection of the dead, then Christ is not risen...And if Christ is not risen, your faith is futile; you are still in your sins! Then also those who have fallen asleep in Christ have perished...But now Christ is risen from the dead, and has becomes the firstfruits of those who have fallen asleep."
My bible study leader told us that studies have been done on Americans showing that we are much more willing to handle surprises in stories/books/movies if we can at least guess what the ending is. When we know what's going to happen, our minds are more capable of dealing with the bumps along the way.
This type of attitude towards stories is inherently Christian. It explains why we can handle grief the way that we do, and this passage in 1 Corinthians points us to the answer as well.
I can give thanks in all things, even in the death of a child, because I know the end of the story. I can give thanks now for what is to come.
Christ died, but he is not dead. Our son died, but he is not dead; he fell asleep in Christ and lives with Him now, and I know the end of the story. I know that the surprise of seeing Christian again will far outweigh the surprise of losing him. We were surprised by the sorrow of parting, but soon we will be surprised by the joy of reunion.
The only way to find comfort in our trials is to keep this eternal perspective, to focus our eyes on that which is unseen, the ending that we know is coming but which has not yet arrived. And God, ever good, gives us glimpses of this glorious ending and whispers of it to us through the Comforter, the Holy Spirit, who dwells within us.
Soon, so soon in fact that it will feel like the blink of an eye, Joel and I will stand with Christian and with all the saints, and we will shout together, "O Death, where is your sting? O Hades, where is your victory?" Then we will sit down at the marriage supper of the lamb, and the joy we can only see a shadow of now, will fill us to overflowing.
We know the ending. And therefore we do not lose heart.